Freed from the Past

Freed from the Past

Struggles in his past made it hard for Pao to believe that God could rewrite his story and free him from all the pain, guilt, and shame. But God proved to him that He can make all things new. Here is his story.

I grew up having a deep hole in my heart.

All my life, I have never seen my dad. He was already married to another woman when he met my mom. It was not easy to grow up without a father and even harder to know that I am a product of a wrong relationship. It was difficult to carry the guilt and shame that went along with that knowledge.

In high school, I battled with identity issues. But instead of opening up to someone about what I had been feeling, I tried to cover it up by performing well in school. Seeing people getting ridiculed for acting different than what was expected of them made me feel afraid. I did everything I could and even entered a relationship prematurely just to dispel any possible doubts or suspicions about my gender identity.

But when I went to college, I suddenly started to embrace the identity I thought I was running away from. I entered relationships that were not pleasing to the Lord, and did things that only pulled me away from God. I thought I had freedom by doing things that only pleased myself. But I was so wrong.

In 2009, my classmates invited me to attend a youth service at Victory Fort. I started attending regularly without really taking things seriously nor having the heart to honor God with the way I lived my life. But things changed after a while. I started feeling empty while doing the things that gave me temporary joy. I grew tired of jumping from one relationship to another. I felt empty. I felt a deep longing in my heart.

On July 9, 2011—while struggling to deal with so many things in school and in my personal life—I cried out to God. I emptied my heart to Him and poured out all my thoughts and doubts. I texted my classmates and asked them to join me in attending the youth service. I did not know that God had already planted seeds of His Word in my heart. That same day, I accepted Christ in my life and resolved to follow Him—no matter how hard. No turning back.

After I made a decision to follow Christ, He gave me the grace to withdraw from my old ways and led me to people who helped me grow in my faith. I attended discipleship classes and felt that He was preparing me to serve full-time in the ministry. Little did I know, He was actually preparing me for something bigger.

Before I went on a short-term missions trip abroad, I met Jill. She was my schoolmate and she knew my past. Jill went through a lot in her family so I started praying for her. At that time, I was just asking God to help her grow in her faith and overcome her family’s plight. I did not know that eventually, I would ask God for something else.

During my missions trip, God dealt with my growing feelings for Jill. I prayed and tried to run away from the idea of actually pursuing someone. I knew it would be difficult for her and for me. Jill knew everything about me; I feared that she would reject me because of my past. But God gave me the courage to overcome all my doubts. After my missions trip, I admitted my feelings for Jill and told her about my intentions to pursue her.

Jill did not say “yes” right away, but after three months of praying about it, she allowed me to pursue her—regardless of what she knew about my past—and eventually agreed to enter into a relationship with me. God gave her the grace to love and accept me for who I had been and who I am now.

Last year, after another short-term missions trip, I proposed to Jill. It was amazing how God prepared our hearts for it and allowed us to have a new beginning with Him. Now, we are married and believing God for greater things next year as He takes us on a new journey together.

We can live a life free from guilt and shame because we have a God who loves us no matter who we were and what we have done. Only He can take us from a place of pain and loneliness to a place full of His love and grace. We can start anew and move forward—no turning back.

No Sin Too Great

No Sin Too Great

No one is exempted from God’s grace. There is no sin too great that God cannot forgive. Deo’s story of redemption, from a seemingly hopeless situation, shows that God has the power to rescue and deliver us from whatever is holding us captive.

I am a former drug user.

And I am not proud of that. But I am proud of how God extended His mercy and grace to me—regardless of who I was and what I had done.

I actually prayed to receive Christ as my Lord and Savior several decades ago, but my journey with Him was never a straight line; it was a crooked one. Most of the time, it was because I chose to wander off to somewhere far. I intentionally walked away from Him.

I started taking drugs when I was in college. I wanted to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance. I thought it was normal. I thought it was exactly what I needed. I held on to it like a security blanket, thinking it would never fail me. But it did. It had been, in fact, failing me right from the very start.

Drowned in my addiction, I would always brush aside thoughts that were trying to convict me of my sin. It came to a point where I was no longer just dishonoring God with my body; I was dishonoring Him in all aspects of my life. I entered a job and a business that were not pleasing to the Lord and repeatedly hurt Him with my actions. Though God kept on pulling me back on the right path, I constantly tried to wriggle out of His grasp.

Three years ago, however, something happened: my wife left me out of frustration. I felt like God was telling me, “Enough.” Conviction filled my heart; I had never felt the gravity of my sins until that very moment. To my surprise, my wife returned after seeing my willingness to repent, and she earnestly prayed for me. Through her, I had a renewed encounter with God.

Since then, God has freed me from the bondage of my addiction and replaced it with a desire to know Him more. He took away the stigma of my past and released me from any condemnation. He allowed me to come freely to Him, regardless of what I had done. I found freedom in Him.

In 2016, out of God’s overflowing mercy and grace, I started reaching out to people who had a similar past. I kept reminding them that it is never too late to go back to God—that there is hope in His grace.

In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses,

according to the riches of his grace.

(Ephesians 1:7)

No matter how big or ugly our sins are, God is able and more than willing to redeem us. If we empty our hearts to Him, He can fill us with His overflowing mercy and love.


Deo is now serving in Victory General Mariano Alvarez. With his loving wife, he continues to minister to people who have struggled with substance abuse.