Beyond the Series: Musings on Motherhood and Parenting

Beyond the Series: Musings on Motherhood and Parenting

Motherhood is a long road that continues even when the children are old and have their own families. As we celebrate Mother’s Day this Sunday, here are some valuable insights on motherhood and parenting from Minnie Carlos, the wife of Bishop Manny Carlos. They are blessed with four children: Jeremy (24), Daniel (22), Hannah (19), and Samuel (18). 

 

LASTING MEMORIES

Though I only had a few memories with my mother, each memory has remained precious to me. When I was very young, my parents separated. Even if my mother and I weren’t together for many years, she would always make an effort to visit us and write long letters to me and my siblings.

When I got married and started to have my own family, I decided to visit my mother in the province. I went there with my husband, Manny, and my firstborn son, Jeremy. It was something I had been wanting to do for years. It was a priceless trip that brought my mother so much joy.

My mother was soft-spoken, kind, gentle, nurturing, and gifted in music. She imparted many good things to me about motherhood. I believe my journey as a mother began with her good example. When she passed away a few years ago, I realized how much of a great influence she has been to me and my children. I miss her, and I will always be thankful for the time we had together.

THE CALL TO STEWARDSHIP

For me, being a mother means taking on an important role. It means responding to a call entrusted by God. As a mother, I understand that I am co-laboring with God in raising my children; He is first and foremost a Father to them before I am their parent. They are ultimately His children. God calls me to show and represent the love and commitment that He has for them.

If I am to be the kind of mother God wants me to be, I need to know the truth about God and how he relates to us—His children. My relationship with God is going to be a reflection of my relationship with my children. God loves us unconditionally, provides for all our needs, protects us from harm, cares about us deeply, disciplines us with love, and has a unique plan and purpose for each one of us. Knowing God’s heart for us, His people, enables me to raise my children in a way that will please Him and bring honor to His name.

MUCH IS TAUGHT AND CAUGHT

Coming from a broken home, I was eager to learn about what the Bible said on marriage and parenting. I always looked forward to attending parenting seminars and reading books that would equip me as a parent. While I learned the basic principles from these materials, I also learned much from observing good role models and mentors who were successful at parenting. I watched how they related to their children in the different stages of their children’s lives. It has been a privilege for me to have people in my life to look up to—couples we can talk to who can give godly counsel and advice. To this day, I’m grateful that Manny and I have people who walk with us as we navigate this journey of parenting.

In my own experience as a mother, I learned that it is always important to pray for my children and point them to God. I should teach them to love His word and hear His voice. I also learned that when I lift them up in prayer and declare God’s word over their lives, my prayers become powerful and effective.

A LEGACY OF FAITH AND OBEDIENCE

I hope for my children to remember me as a woman who loves and fears God—whose life pleases Him and brings honor to His name. I want to be a good example to them, not just as a mother, but as a Christian who has taught and encouraged them to grow in their walk with God.

For me, these passages summarize what God is admonishing us to do as parents:

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:5–9

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. Proverbs 22:15

We should teach God’s word and commands to our children, train them in life, impart values that are Christ-centered, and discipline them with the end goal of restoring them to their relationship with God—and with us.

If we want to raise our children effectively, we have to be intentional in our parenting. Having good children does not happen by chance, as some would believe. It takes a lot of hard work to raise children who will follow God. When God tells us to do something, whether in our parenting or in our own personal lives, we should always respond in obedience. Parenting is a big responsibility which can be daunting, but God has given us clear guidelines on how to do it—and each of those guidelines, if followed, comes with a promise. One important promise from God is that those who honor their father and mother will live long in the land. This promise is for us, for our children, and for the generations after.

Mothers play a big role in our journey of knowing God and following Him. Their love and sacrifice give us a glimpse of His unconditional and unfailing love for us. Today and every day, let us honor them and celebrate their lives. Happy Mother’s Day!

 

Minnie Carlos is the wife of Bishop Manny Carlos. They have been married for 25 years. They are blessed with four children: Jeremy, Daniel, Hannah, and Samuel. 

Beyond the Series is a set of interviews on topics related to our sermon series.

A Mother’s Strength

A Mother’s Strength

Mothers embody courage that can withstand life’s most difficult trials. They are clothed in beauty and strength that comes from God. Here is a story of a mother who remains steadfast in her faith in God amid her battle with cancer.

 

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2017. That same year, I went through a procedure to have the tumor removed. I thought I was on my way to getting well. But just a year later, my hopes were dashed by heartbreaking news from my doctors—they found that another tumor had surfaced.

Though still recovering from my previous operation, I decided to go through another surgery. It was way more aggressive than the first one. The doctors recommended a radical mastectomy, which entailed complete removal of breasts, underlying chest muscles, and lymph nodes.

The whole process was painful physically, emotionally, and mentally. I went through anxiety, depression, and self-pity. It took me a while to understand everything that was happening to me, but I never questioned God. I knew He had a purpose.

While undergoing chemotherapy, I would always pray to God and tell Him everything I was feeling. I would also post verses on my wall to remind me that He is in control. It was hard to deal with the fear and pain of living with cancer, especially when I think of my husband and children, but God’s promises strengthened me. Whenever I felt weak, instead of wallowing in self-pity, I would fill my heart with His word.

God also gave me an opportunity to strengthen my faith by allowing me to share His goodness with other cancer patients. Instead of dwelling on my pain, I learned to focus more on the good things that He is doing in my life. When fear would creep in, God would always lead me to someone in need of His word. I would always end up declaring the gospel instead of being depressed over my situation. It builds my faith to know that God is using me to bring hope to other patients in pain.

At home, though it’s hard to remain strong, seeing my children with so much faith in God helps me to continue my fight every day. My husband, who’s miles away from us, also never fails to comfort and encourage me. I will always be thankful to God for letting me experience His love through my family.

To those who are also battling any disease, I pray that they will always be reminded of how big God is. Though what we’re experiencing is beyond difficult, I believe that God can always turn things around and use our situation to be a blessing. I learned a lot in this battle, and I will always be thankful to God for allowing me to grow in faith. It may be a painful process, but I know that God will enable me to be victorious in the end. 

I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

Angelita Ratonel is a full-time housewife with three kids. She is currently leading a Victory group for senior citizens in Victory Bacoor. She is continuing her fight against cancer and is set to have her last chemotherapy session on May 13, 2020. 

Beauty in Strength

Beauty in Strength

As we celebrate Mother’s Day this weekend, we want to commemorate and honor the role of mothers and recognize their godly influence in our homes and society.

In the Bible, a mother named Jochebed displayed courage, strength, and immense trust in God in the midst of a challenging time in history. She did not let fear overcome her faith. We will look more into her story this weekend to understand the beauty that God brings through mothers.

May Jochebed and the rest of the mothers inspire us to display beauty in strength as we overcome fear and respond in faith. See you at our online worship services this weekend!

 

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Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Mother’s Day is a fitting time to honor and show our love for our mothers. The Bible teaches us to honor our parents, and when we do, we gain more in return. Even the simple things we do to show our affection will definitely mean a lot to her. Whatever plans you may have is sure to make her day special and worth remembering.

Join us at our weekend services at your local Victory church as we celebrate Mother’s Day. Bring your moms, too, because we have a surprise in store for her!

Check out some blog posts from our pastors regarding Mother’s Day.

* MAMA by Dennis Sy
* WARNING! Dishonoring Your Parents may be Harmful to Your Health by Ferdie Cabiling

 

Happy Mother’s Day!